Just before you say yes —
know what you're saying
yes to.
JBYSY is a premarital assessment tool, developed for the Nigerian and diaspora reality, that surfaces the conversations every serious couple needs to have before the wedding. Independent. Faith-informed. Designed for clarity, not verdicts.
A clear path from
question to clarity.
Create your account
Email or phone. If a counsellor has invited you, paste your invite code — your report links to their dashboard.
Take the assessment
135 questions across ten modules. Save and resume anytime. Average completion time is around forty-five minutes.
Receive your report
A personalised reading of your strengths, your growth areas, and the conversations you most need to have.
Compare with your partner
If you've paired, the alignment view shows where you agree, where you diverge, and what to talk about next.
Three routes in.
One methodology.
Individuals
For someone single, exploring readiness, or wanting to take the assessment privately before involving a partner.
Learn more → Most chosenCouples
Two independent assessments and a combined alignment report. Where most couples find what they didn't know.
Learn more →Counsellors
Verified pastoral counsellors and relationship professionals. A real dashboard for the clients you already counsel.
Become a counsellor →This is what
you'll receive.
Strong readiness.
This couple demonstrates strong alignment across most domains. Two modules — Family & In-Laws and Life Goals — flag meaningful gaps that benefit from facilitated conversation before the wedding.
A sample report helps users see the kind of structure, tone, and clarity they can expect before they begin the assessment.
See how reports workSome things we want
to be clear about.
A dating app.
No matching, no swiping, no profile discovery. JBYSY is a decision-support tool for couples already in a serious courtship or engagement, and for individuals discerning marriage.
A clinical diagnosis.
The platform is not a clinical, diagnostic, or therapeutic service. The Report does not diagnose mental-health conditions and is not a substitute for therapy or regulated mental-health care.
A pass/fail verdict.
The CRI is a readiness indicator, not a threshold. There is no score below which a couple is told not to marry. The Report opens the conversation — the decision belongs to You.
A substitute for pastoral counsel.
The platform is designed to enhance a counsellor's authority, not to replace it. No Report should be acted on without skilled pastoral interpretation. We provide structure; the counsellor provides care.
A directory of
pastoral counsellors.
Verified counsellors will appear here.
Verified counsellors will appear here as the directory opens. You'll be able to filter by city, denomination, language, and session type — and send a booking request directly to the counsellor.
What counsellors
and couples are saying.
It surfaces the conversations couples avoid until two weeks before the wedding. By then it's too late. JBYSY brings them forward, in writing, with structure.
We thought we were aligned on family. The report showed us we were aligned on the idea of family — not on the actual decisions. We wouldn't have caught it otherwise.
What happens
next.
Every great marriage
begins with a decision.
Make this one with clarity. Take the assessment on your own, or invite the person you're considering forever with.